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Inside Out Girl: A Novel (P.S.)
by Tish Cohen
Paperback : 317 pages
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Rachel Berman wants everything to be perfect. An overprotective single mother of two, she is acutely aware of the statistical dangers lurking around every corner—which makes her snap decision to aid a stranded motorist wholly uncharacteristic. Len Bean is stuck on the shoulder with ...
Introduction
Rachel Berman wants everything to be perfect. An overprotective single mother of two, she is acutely aware of the statistical dangers lurking around every corner?which makes her snap decision to aid a stranded motorist wholly uncharacteristic. Len Bean is stuck on the shoulder with Olivia, his relentlessly curious, learning disabled ten-year-old daughter. To the chagrin of Rachel's children, who are about to be linked to the most-mocked girl in school, Rachel and Len begin dating. And when Len receives terrible news, little Olivia needs a hero more than ever.
But the world refuses to be predictable. When personal crisis profoundly alters Rachel's relationship with a wild, very special little girl, this perfectionist mother finds herself drawn into a mystery from her past and toward a new appreciation for her own children's imperfect lives.
Excerpt
Chapter 2Accidents Can Happen
“When dealing with sensitive parenting issues, ask yourself two simple questions.
What do I want my child to take away from this experience and is that what I am accomplishing?”
-Rachel Berman, Perfect Parent Magazine
Rachel set her coffee on her rickety nightstand and reached for her morning reading material. Accident reports. These varied from day to day, week to week. Some days she studied accidents by vehicle, other days she looked at accidents by appliance-it had been no small decision to haul a mini-bar up to her bedroom to store cream for her morning coffee. Rachel weighed the risks, but of all 29,964 estimated refrigerator-related accidents in 1998, very few resulted in hospitalization or DOAs. Most victims were treated in Emergency and released. Some might say an accident report over ten years old could hardly be considered accurate, but Rachel was no fool. Recent statistics could only be more ominous. ... view entire excerpt...
Discussion Questions
1. Rachel Berman gave up an infant when she was very young. Would committing a similar act, either by choice or by not, change the way you parent subsequent children? Would you tell your children about their missing sibling?2. Do you believe a teenager who gives up her baby for adoption is incredibly selfless or selfish? If you were in Rachel's position as a teen, faced to do the same, do you think you might regret giving up the infant or would you feel you offered the child a better life?
3. Rachel's teenage daughter Janie eventually reveals herself to be a lesbian. If a child of yours were to tell you he or she was gay, how would you feel? What, if anything, would change in your parent-child relationship?
4. This story is populated by children. If Rachel had never had children, how would her relationship with Piper differ? How would it differ if Piper had never been penniless?
5. Bullying is a central theme of the book. If you were the parent of a child involved in bullying another, how would you react? And as you reprimand your child for his or her actions, would the slightest part of you be secretly relieved your child was in the position of power vs. weakness?
6. As a result of giving up her firstborn, Rachel is petrified of losing her remaining children. What role does Dustin play in changing his mother? Have you ever felt overly protective of your own kids? If so, did anything in your past provoke this?
7. Len's parents must relinquish the proposed guardianship of Olivia to Rachel. Do you think they would be accepting of this? As a grandparent, would you?
Notes From the Author to the Bookclub
What made you want to write this book? What was the idea that sparked your imagination? The inspiration for INSIDE OUT GIRL A family therapist told me her favorite clients are the children with non-verbal learning disorders, because of their loving dispositions-naiveté, and utter inability to connect with other children. She loved that they talked too close, constantly knocked things over, said the wrong thing, and got lost in an office they'd been coming to for five years. Often their clothes are inside out and their lack of motor skills means they may not be able to brush their own teeth. Frustrating, to say the least. But they will hug you until you weep. They wear their hearts on a neon sign above their heads. They see nothing wrong with marching straight up to the meanest clique in middle grade or the bully everyone fears and wrapping themselves around them in a full-body hug. And they cannot for the life of them see why they're rejected. I thought about what it would mean to have a child with NLD and the joy and pain that would entail. Then I wondered what that parent would do if he found out he was dying and had to leave his daughter in a world that doesn't understand her. What do you want readers to take away with them after reading the book? In the U.S. alone, there are approximately 15 million children, adolescents and adults with learning disabilities. Non-verbal learning disability is every bit as prevalent and every bit as devastating as Asperger's Syndrome, and in my opinion even more poignant, yet it has had little media attention. We all grew up with kids who had NLD-the child who never got the joke, who was bullied incessantly, who came to school in a Tonka truck t-shirt in sixth grade, and who wouldn't stop talking about a certain topic-and we all probably misunderstood them. Parents need to be aware of this condition and teach their children that kids with learning disabilities such as this have misfirings in their brain. They aren't nerds, or geeks, nor are they stupid. They're actually wired differently and should be treated with respect and decency.Book Club Recommendations
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